Moving Parks

So it has been in the works for quite a few months now. Slowly informing people to have certain weekend in October free and trying to organize ourselves in approaching this project.

So far, we have noticed a pattern in how we are handling this endless list of todos and details to check over. I’ve been tackling them from the most expensive to the least. Most time critical to the least. One problem I see is that we complete one thing on our list, check it off and celebrate the last item we have just taken care of. The celebration lasts about 3 weeks and we realize that we haven’t done anything to do with the wedding for a while. I always thought the best motivation is panic but I was wrong. The combined panic of two people… Now, there is a motivation.

So many people have offered their help and I have told them all that I can manage but I have a strange suspicion that soon, I will probably take up on people’s offers. I’m giving you a heads up you all!

Rush of responsibilities both personally and professionally is making me feel old!
Not that I’m complaining or anything because it was all my choices and I really did crave all this responsiblity. But now that I have it all, I wonder if I really knew how to handle responsiblities.

The good old familiar feeling of not enough time in a day is back but this time, there is one major difference. I actually need more sleep than before. Gone are the days of functioning just fine with 4 hours per night. I actually need 6 or more! To be completely honest, I think I need my 8 hours now. 8 hours! that’s 100% increase in sleep time! Work for at least 9 hours per day, plus the transit between work and home (or where ever I need to be), I have less than 14 hours of personal time. Take 8 hours of sleep out then I get 6 hours to do everything else. Time for food and personal grooming needs need at least 3 hours per day. Then the last short 3 hours really isn’t long enough to do anything productive. I can just waste that time away doing nothing while surfing the net.

3 hours! crap! If I work out, then there goes most of that 3 hours every other day! What can I do in 3 hours? No wonder time flies and I’m getting older so fast!

“I’m gonna be a dad”, is what my co-worker ambuished me with in the elevator a handful of mornings ago. He was the biggest supporter for my rather quick engagement with D and he has been the dear friend to me during the past 3 months of my new life that started with new title, new office and the new job.

Now, he has bought a house. How fast this has happened even makes my head spin. Why does a marriage come with so much more demand than other events in our lives? I understand that he did get the double whammy of fatherhood at the same time with the prospect of going through a rushed wedding. But graduating from school, which is just as life changing event as the next, never demanded change in personal values nor did it demand extreme change in behaviour. Having the wedding ahead of me and the married life that is to follow, I can’t help but catch myself thinking in very different light.

Of course, the whole security of permanancy adds a pleasant surprise that was never been experienced by me(something I will write about later) but what people around me are expecting from me is something I never thought I would have to worry about. Just because I’m getting married soon, doesn’t mean I have to give up what was seen as “immature”. People, parents in particular, doesn’t seem to understand that now, I have a partner in being immature at times. So I ask married couples out there, what has been demanded of you and what have you done to cope with it?